Promised myself I’d blog today so here’s the world’s shortest post.\u00a0 The hubby’s away this weekend and while that means more work, and the need to allow more time for the usual routine, it’s also allowed me\u00a0to focus on the boys.<\/p>\n
I love my kids – all of them, even with their issues.\u00a0\u00a0 Yeah doing both showers, keeping an eye on both simultaneously to guard against their bad behaviors takes more focus.\u00a0\u00a0 Yet focus is a clarifying thing.\u00a0 It cuts to the chase, and lets go of all that is extraneous so what’s left has meaning.<\/p>\n
Love.\u00a0 My guys are genuinely sweet to the core, and despite W’s issues – despite J’s tendency to\u00a0croon the same invented Mommy song at the top of his lungs for three hours, they are a joy.\u00a0 When I ask “Who wants to help Mom trim green beans?” – they both coming running.\u00a0\u00a0 When I ask “who wants to open cans for Mom so we can make dinner?” – J peels off his favorite La-Z-Boy to dart\u00a0to my side\u00a0even when it’s his brother that I called.\u00a0 When I asked “Who wants to vacuum before the car trip?” the “I do” chorus made me smile.<\/p>\n
We’re inexplicably bonded, my guys and me.\u00a0 They’re\u00a0genuinely trying to do what I ask, and\u00a0correspondingly I’m trying to coach them to greater capability while respecting their uniqueness.\u00a0 It’s fluidity that’s great for us both.\u00a0 It’s easy to want to change your autistic kiddos, and certainly their deficits promote a greater focus on “what’s wrong.”\u00a0 As this week brought tremendous achievement for the typically developing sister, I also had to avoid sadness over what isn’t meant to be.\u00a0 No my boys are not at college and readying for a launch into the work world.\u00a0 Hell they’re not even reading although J. correctly counted the number of forks needed for dinner last night, and independently opened a can of tomatoes – uplifting me that all this daily practice really does work.<\/p>\n
But each day, we both grow through love.\u00a0 My boys, and me.<\/p>\n
With T-minus 23 minutes to do three showers and get to church,\u00a0the tubs aren’t going to get scrubbed today.\u00a0 And don’t tell anyone but my own personal hygiene my get a little crimped.\u00a0\u00a0 But we’ll be freshly bearers of joy where ever we go today.\u00a0 And that’s a gift.<\/p>\n
So go away more often, hubby \ud83d\ude42 – because the clarify on what really matters to me will carry me through gray skies, today and always.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
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